Boyfriend?Girlfriend Allowance?

Boyfriend or Girlfriend allowance, would you like an allowance?

Let's clarify the statement first before going deeper into the context. We are not talking about the occasional taking you out, treating you with treats or gifts or giving you money once in a while, because of just. No, we are talking about the allowance you get monthly, like every month there's a small notification that comes in your phone either in the morning or afternoon that money has entered your account.

So the real question is, how is this different from gold-digging?

Honestly, from the discussion I had with a couple of friends of mine on this topic( NB: my friend inspired this topic), and I was like hey, I could write this on my blog.

Anyway, so the discussion was split as one of my friends thought that the idea of getting a boyfriend/girlfriend allowance is a low-key, subtle way of gold-digging and I gotta say I kinda do agree with her. I mean imagine, getting R12000 every month in your account from your boyfriend/girlfriend out of the illusion of an allowance.

My other question is what happens when the notification does not ring?

Do you have the right to get mad because you didn't get this monthly allowance? Would you get mad? Would you leave your partner just because they missed the deadline?

These are questions that I really ask myself.

Others would say--especially in African cultures( speaking from experience)-- that the idea of boyfriend/girlfriend allowance is like in a way, paying for that women. In a sense, paying lobola without the female knowing it and ventures into situations like vat-en-sit.

What is to stop that man from saying, "I own you", and this is every culture not only African people. What is to really stop that man from damn right saying that he owns you because he has been R12000 every month.

And if you want to see how further this could get, it could lead to abuse and the victim may not report it because they have gotten used to that lifestyle that they don't mind the beatings or undermining words.

I personally think having a girlfriend or boyfriend allowance is a dangerous game to play, especially if you don't know what you're doing. And I think Jackie can agree with me on this one.

Jokes, Guys.

Anyway, play safe guys. Remember to sanitize, wear a mask and always social distance. And I wish you a happy festive season!