The concept of something different from what you know or understand is very hard to accept especially if you're not willing to accept it.
They say people fear what they don't understand but sometimes there's nothing to be scared of if you're open to it.
There are many factors that contribute to why people struggle to accept, to come to terms with the idea of different, with the idea of Pride. We're not talking about the effects of apartheid or apartheid itself nor are we discussing the abnormality of black hair in contrast to white hair.
Those are different matters on their own that need to be addressed.
What I've come to realize is that most don't even understand the terms represented by LGBTTQQIAAP ( lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual). They don't understand it because of what they were taught when growing up especially when we talk about the old generation.
They were taught that the right way in a relationship is with a man and a woman, and if you're from a religious family then it would be the bible or God rebukes it, that the idea of being gay or lesbian is deemed an abomination.
It's already hard for someone to come out without these factors. They're scared of rejection, they're scared of being deemed as shameful, a sin. They don't want to be humiliated for something that they are and it even more difficult when the people that are supposed to love you and support you turn a blind eye and disown you.
Pansexual, Ally, Queer or bisexual, it doesn't matter, the title shouldn't matter for the person is still the same person it's just they prefer something else. Some parents have this illusion that if it's not a man or woman that there will be no children or that you're not satisfied with the sexual intercourse and it's not about that.
Our parents say, "you shouldn't have to change ourselves to please others".
And I don't think they understand the ambiguity of that statement, of their words. The impact that they have and only later on to forget them and say something different. And we're all human, we all make mistakes it's if we learn from them that counts.
Our parents are human, they say you should never tell an elder that they're wrong but that they're mistaken and they are mistaken but they are filled with the idea of being older than you that they don't see it.
That's why it is easier to come out to your friends because they are more willing to understand and accept because of the times and the more ' freedom' we have compared to the olden days.
With the new generation, we grow up in this time that's flourished and more polished than the 60s or 80s. There's more freedom of speech or expression. Technology is at our disposal, but it can also be a bad thing because as time goes with these advancements it easier to communicate, but it also becomes harder to be rejected and be ridiculed.
It's great to have support, to have someone there with you when you tell someone who you know will have a hard time accepting what you're saying. Someone who is there to help lessen the load as cliche as it sounds. A sibling, a friend, it's better if you're not alone and that for me makes it easier.
Hiding is restraining, hiding is rebuking, hiding is uncomfortable and throat tearing. It's inhumane.
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